Comments on: Little white flowers won’t wait for you http://laraloola.co.uk/2010/02/little-white-flowers-wont-wait-for-you/ Pipe up, spill and chew some gum. Thu, 02 Sep 2010 17:05:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: admin http://laraloola.co.uk/2010/02/little-white-flowers-wont-wait-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2226 admin Sat, 20 Feb 2010 22:26:43 +0000 http://laraloola.co.uk/?p=942#comment-2226 Thank you both...xx Max-I was talking both abstractly too but she was in amongst my thoughts on the issue. I've tried to get her to go to self-help groups and things of that type afore and so far have not been successful, but I still nurture a hope that one day... Zoe-It's all relative though isn't it? We're all (mostly) in a better place than someone at some point, and all at a worse place at somepoint. Thank you both…xx
Max-I was talking both abstractly too but she was in amongst my thoughts on the issue. I’ve tried to get her to go to self-help groups and things of that type afore and so far have not been successful, but I still nurture a hope that one day…
Zoe-It’s all relative though isn’t it? We’re all (mostly) in a better place than someone at some point, and all at a worse place at somepoint.

]]> By: Zoe http://laraloola.co.uk/2010/02/little-white-flowers-wont-wait-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2205 Zoe Thu, 18 Feb 2010 13:34:01 +0000 http://laraloola.co.uk/?p=942#comment-2205 I have absolutely nothing to add, apart from to say two things: reading that made me ache for your friend, and that it has taught me that there are people out there far worse off than me. I have absolutely nothing to add, apart from to say two things: reading that made me ache for your friend, and that it has taught me that there are people out there far worse off than me.

]]> By: Max http://laraloola.co.uk/2010/02/little-white-flowers-wont-wait-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2182 Max Mon, 15 Feb 2010 16:38:49 +0000 http://laraloola.co.uk/?p=942#comment-2182 PS: Totally see your point re the dilemma of widening DSM criteria. The critical thing is how to balance important awareness raising with widening the diagnostic criteria to a point where it becomes meaningless (terms like 'bipolar' and 'autistic' are now routinely used in some middle-class circles as lazy descriptors for someone whose moods are a bit changeable or someone who doesn't like parties, which is quite annoying). PS: Totally see your point re the dilemma of widening DSM criteria. The critical thing is how to balance important awareness raising with widening the diagnostic criteria to a point where it becomes meaningless (terms like ‘bipolar’ and ‘autistic’ are now routinely used in some middle-class circles as lazy descriptors for someone whose moods are a bit changeable or someone who doesn’t like parties, which is quite annoying).

]]> By: Max http://laraloola.co.uk/2010/02/little-white-flowers-wont-wait-for-you/comment-page-1/#comment-2181 Max Mon, 15 Feb 2010 15:59:56 +0000 http://laraloola.co.uk/?p=942#comment-2181 I'm sorry to hear it; it all sounds very sad. I should've grasped more directly when you were talking about all this the other day that there was a real person at the heart of your concerns. As I said at the time I'm not big on eating disorders (as in know very little about them and don't know any affected people that I'm aware of) but what I would say is that there are probably self-help placces she can go for that which don't involve referral from a GP, if that would help at all. Re 'comparing' mothers. Oh boy do I know one of those. Spent years repeatedly berating her younger daughter for being un-academic while she was stood in front of her. Of course, now that she travels the world and works as a chalet girl during ski seasons, we get to hear all about how well Sophie's doing, what a lovely girl she is and how many rich friends she's made. (Yes dear, we all knew your daughter wasn't thick and useless, it was *you* that needed convincing...). I was the same with worshipping schoolteachers (the ones that were nice anyway). Though I always had a bit of a guilt complex when presented with any evidence that they were actually human (ie that they had friends/families/personal crises/sex/bowel movements/musical tastes); it felt a bit taboo somehow... I’m sorry to hear it; it all sounds very sad. I should’ve grasped more directly when you were talking about all this the other day that there was a real person at the heart of your concerns. As I said at the time I’m not big on eating disorders (as in know very little about them and don’t know any affected people that I’m aware of) but what I would say is that there are probably self-help placces she can go for that which don’t involve referral from a GP, if that would help at all.

Re ‘comparing’ mothers. Oh boy do I know one of those. Spent years repeatedly berating her younger daughter for being un-academic while she was stood in front of her. Of course, now that she travels the world and works as a chalet girl during ski seasons, we get to hear all about how well Sophie’s doing, what a lovely girl she is and how many rich friends she’s made. (Yes dear, we all knew your daughter wasn’t thick and useless, it was *you* that needed convincing…).

I was the same with worshipping schoolteachers (the ones that were nice anyway). Though I always had a bit of a guilt complex when presented with any evidence that they were actually human (ie that they had friends/families/personal crises/sex/bowel movements/musical tastes); it felt a bit taboo somehow…

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